One of my followers recently asked me the following:
I felt like sharing (and keeping the tumblr user private, out of respect), because I know this could happen with any other individual around the world.
I will not ignore you. I am not like that. You deserve as much attention as anyone else.
What exactly do you mean by “trying to like yourself”? What are you unhappy about? Your physical look? Your ability to make friends? Your love life? Your social life? I’m just trying to come up with a more collected answer to help in any way I can.
How do I manage to be happy with myself? My honest answer: I am not always the happiest person.
Though I may look happy most of the time, I tend to deal with the constant struggles of other people being judgmental or mad at me just because I try my best to live a life without stress and problems.
How do I manage to get over those situations? I simply tell myself that I do not have to make everyone happy. This is a recent realization, since I’ve always felt compelled to see people smile, or at least feel a sense of comfort in knowing someone else cares about their existence.
Good people, good vibrations and good energies are all around us… but there are also negative people that do not notice how much they bring us down. You just have to think to yourself: I am a good person. I do good. I treat people well. I live my life the way I want, without being bad to other people.
It was a long process for me, but now I am feeling better than before. I simply stopped allowing the opinion of others to affect me. I didn’t let it affect me for years, but then for a short time, I started to listen. I only did it to know what I had to work on with myself. My manners, my morals, my strengths, my weaknesses, my goals, etc. I did it for constructive reasons.
You are you. You are not them. They will base their own opinion about life onto you… but this does not mean that they’re correct in their logic.
I do not know if this truly helped, but I hope I could at least share some life points on my own opinion.
If you want to chat further, I am all ears and here for you. You are not alone.
We are all busy leading our own lives… but always be mindful of what you say, ill-intended, to others.
I hope you all have a beautiful Friday!